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Thursday, April 22, 2010

MALE FRIENDS: A Platonic Relationship??

Once a week—every Thursdays—my friends and I dash out of work and head straight to the village for happy hour to our favorite spot for the best drinks EVER! Usually when we go there, we bring our favorite “People” magazine with us to talk trash about celebrities. It is always a blast when we go there—sometimes we end up in places we have no business being—it is almost guarantee that we get into an argument about this or that, but always too drunk to stay mad at each other.

So on one of those occasions, one of my friends mentioned that she has not seen her friend—a man—in a long time. Always inquisitive and analytical, I made a comment that I did not believe a man and a woman could be in a platonic relationship. Simple, I never met a single guy I wanted to be friends with and not want to f**k (excuse my French). My thing is—I have plenty of friends—I don’t see the purpose or the benefit of having a man friend. I want to talk trash about you with my girls, not with you. I am just saying.

I braced myself for the “oh K, you’re crazy” comment I always get whenever I make a comment that no one—only the people in my head—understands. Not surprisingly, my friends disagreed with me because they both have male friends. Right then, I remembered a joke Chris Rock once told about guys who are in platonic relationship with girls. He said, (I am paraphrasing) the only way a guy end up being in a platonic relationship with a girl is because he could not close the deal. Two reasons: One, the relationship either got to a point where the girl did not want to sleep with him or two, the relationship got all the way but the girl decides that it’s not worth sleeping with him and ruin a potential friendship. Chris explained: The guy who stays in a platonic relationship with a girl is the one who still thinks he has a chance to close the deal. (Ah!)


But here is the thing—though I don’t believe it’s possible to be just friends with a guy—I am not one hundred percent convince that it is totally impossible. I am open-minded. I am just saying. 

http://youtu.be/q75jOnQB0BI

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It is imperative that a woman keep her sense of humor intact and at the ready. She must see, even if only in secret, that she is the funniest, looniest woman in her world, which she should also see as being the most absurd world of all times.

Wouldn’t Take Long for My Journey
Now By: Maya Angelou

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MALE FRIENDS: A Platonic Relationship??

Once a week—every Thursdays—my friends and I dash out of work and head straight to the village for happy hour to our favorite spot for the best drinks EVER! Usually when we go there, we bring our favorite “People” magazine with us to talk trash about celebrities. It is always a blast when we go there—sometimes we end up in places we have no business being—it is almost guarantee that we get into an argument about this or that, but always too drunk to stay mad at each other.

So on one of those occasions, one of my friends mentioned that she has not seen her friend—a man—in a long time. Always inquisitive and analytical, I made a comment that I did not believe a man and a woman could be in a platonic relationship. Simple, I never met a single guy I wanted to be friends with and not want to f**k (excuse my French). My thing is—I have plenty of friends—I don’t see the purpose or the benefit of having a man friend. I want to talk trash about you with my girls, not with you. I am just saying.

I braced myself for the “oh K, you’re crazy” comment I always get whenever I make a comment that no one—only the people in my head—understands. Not surprisingly, my friends disagreed with me because they both have male friends. Right then, I remembered a joke Chris Rock once told about guys who are in platonic relationship with girls. He said, (I am paraphrasing) the only way a guy end up being in a platonic relationship with a girl is because he could not close the deal. Two reasons: One, the relationship either got to a point where the girl did not want to sleep with him or two, the relationship got all the way but the girl decides that it’s not worth sleeping with him and ruin a potential friendship. Chris explained: The guy who stays in a platonic relationship with a girl is the one who still thinks he has a chance to close the deal. (Ah!)


But here is the thing—though I don’t believe it’s possible to be just friends with a guy—I am not one hundred percent convince that it is totally impossible. I am open-minded. I am just saying. 

http://youtu.be/q75jOnQB0BI

POWER OF THE WORD:
It is imperative that a woman keep her sense of humor intact and at the ready. She must see, even if only in secret, that she is the funniest, looniest woman in her world, which she should also see as being the most absurd world of all times.

Wouldn’t Take Long for My Journey
Now By: Maya Angelou