The question is courtship dead is something I have been pondering for awhile now. And so I decided to ask around to see what the consensus was. What I found was astounding to say the least. One of my girlfriends said if (emphasis on IF) courtship is dead it could only be because we (us…girls) killed it just like we killed chivalry. To prove her point she found a video on YouTube from Dave chapelle's comedy routine “Chivalry Is Dead”. Check it out, it’s hilarious!
Of course I was shock when I watch the video, but I can’t front, some of the things Dave said actually made sense. This only proves to me this is precisely why now a day most man would rather skip the whole courtship thing and go straight to the relationship. Later when the relationship does not work out, one of you (mostly us…yes you!) is left to wonder why. I believe this may have a lot to do with what we stop doing during the beginning of a relationship and that is to make him properly court us. Make him wine and dine us for as long as it takes. Most of us (and I am guilty of it too) are so happy to finally be in a relationship we forget or neglect to make him work for it. And I am not the only one who feels that way. For those of you who are reading this and raising an eyebrow, you should get a copy of Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man. It’s all in the book ladies; I am not making this up. I have six words for you “let a man be a man!”
Now I am not an expert, but I figure if a man has some home training he should at least know how to court the object of his affection (us) and know what’s expected of him on a first, second, third and fourth date and so on and so on… Simple things like opening a car door or pulling out a chair, some basic skills a man should have. If he does not have these basic skills then (I hate to say it, ladies) you need to trained him. And YES, a man can be trained.
So yes, I have come to the conclusion that courting a woman is dead. I don’t know about you, but I want more than just a drink. I will take dinner and a movie and no expectations afterwards any day. If I can find it! Lol! I mean, really!
AND this is something to talk about…let me hear your thoughts.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymNdfdQvdVc
IS COURTSHIP DEAD?
The question is courtship dead is something I have been pondering for awhile now. And so I decided to ask around to see what the consensus was. What I found was astounding to say the least. One of my girlfriends said if (emphasis on IF) courtship is dead it could only be because we (us…girls) killed it just like we killed chivalry. To prove her point she found a video on YouTube from Dave chapelle's comedy routine “Chivalry Is Dead”. Check it out, it’s hilarious!
Of course I was shock when I watch the video, but I can’t front, some of the things Dave said actually made sense. This only proves to me this is precisely why now a day most man would rather skip the whole courtship thing and go straight to the relationship. Later when the relationship does not work out, one of you (mostly us…yes you!) is left to wonder why. I believe this may have a lot to do with what we stop doing during the beginning of a relationship and that is to make him properly court us. Make him wine and dine us for as long as it takes. Most of us (and I am guilty of it too) are so happy to finally be in a relationship we forget or neglect to make him work for it. And I am not the only one who feels that way. For those of you who are reading this and raising an eyebrow, you should get a copy of Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man. It’s all in the book ladies; I am not making this up. I have six words for you “let a man be a man!”
Now I am not an expert, but I figure if a man has some home training he should at least know how to court the object of his affection (us) and know what’s expected of him on a first, second, third and fourth date and so on and so on… Simple things like opening a car door or pulling out a chair, some basic skills a man should have. If he does not have these basic skills then (I hate to say it, ladies) you need to trained him. And YES, a man can be trained.
So yes, I have come to the conclusion that courting a woman is dead. I don’t know about you, but I want more than just a drink. I will take dinner and a movie and no expectations afterwards any day. If I can find it! Lol! I mean, really!
AND this is something to talk about…let me hear your thoughts.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymNdfdQvdVc
Of course I was shock when I watch the video, but I can’t front, some of the things Dave said actually made sense. This only proves to me this is precisely why now a day most man would rather skip the whole courtship thing and go straight to the relationship. Later when the relationship does not work out, one of you (mostly us…yes you!) is left to wonder why. I believe this may have a lot to do with what we stop doing during the beginning of a relationship and that is to make him properly court us. Make him wine and dine us for as long as it takes. Most of us (and I am guilty of it too) are so happy to finally be in a relationship we forget or neglect to make him work for it. And I am not the only one who feels that way. For those of you who are reading this and raising an eyebrow, you should get a copy of Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man. It’s all in the book ladies; I am not making this up. I have six words for you “let a man be a man!”
Now I am not an expert, but I figure if a man has some home training he should at least know how to court the object of his affection (us) and know what’s expected of him on a first, second, third and fourth date and so on and so on… Simple things like opening a car door or pulling out a chair, some basic skills a man should have. If he does not have these basic skills then (I hate to say it, ladies) you need to trained him. And YES, a man can be trained.
So yes, I have come to the conclusion that courting a woman is dead. I don’t know about you, but I want more than just a drink. I will take dinner and a movie and no expectations afterwards any day. If I can find it! Lol! I mean, really!
AND this is something to talk about…let me hear your thoughts.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymNdfdQvdVc
