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Monday, September 28, 2009

THE NINETY-DAY RULE

For those of you who are not familiar with the Ninety-Day rule, it is basically how long a woman should wait before sleeping with the man she is dating. According to Steve Harvey's book Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man, waiting ninety-days before sleeping with a man is a sure way to guarantee the relationship will last beyond ninety-days. Apparently, this rule is a way to get the respect you deserve from the man you are seeing.

In the book, Steve Harvey explained: In the same way a new employee has to wait for a ninety-day probation period before getting company benefits, you should also have a ninety-day probation period before giving up your benefits to a man. The benefits being your "cookies" or the "good good." That way if things do not work out you will have no regrets. Makes sense, right? But really, how realistic is this rule? And does it really matter whether or not you wait ninety-days before sleeping with a man? My answer to that last question is a big fat NO!

OK, while I understand the importance of getting to know someone before sleeping with him, I also feel it is equally important to know whether or not we are sexually compatible. In my opinion, ninety-days is a long time to spend getting to know someone just to find out at the end that one, he has none of the skills he bragged about (you know how some men like to brag). Two, he does not know the first thing about foreplay and three, he is one of those who arrive at the destination before you even get in the car. So, I believe, the sooner I know these things the better it is for me to make a decision on whether or not I want to take the relationship any further. Besides, men do it why not me (us).

But let’s be serious, the truth is there are different reasons why women and men sleep together be it before or after ninety-days. I don't think it makes a difference when we do it, because if the relationship is meant to work out, it will and if it is not meant to work out, it won’t. The main thing is, learn from your prior experiences, pay attention to the red lights (also known as your intuition) that goes off in your head as a warning when someone is wrong for you and you will have no regrets if you let him go early. And that's my motto.

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THE NINETY-DAY RULE

For those of you who are not familiar with the Ninety-Day rule, it is basically how long a woman should wait before sleeping with the man she is dating. According to Steve Harvey's book Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man, waiting ninety-days before sleeping with a man is a sure way to guarantee the relationship will last beyond ninety-days. Apparently, this rule is a way to get the respect you deserve from the man you are seeing.

In the book, Steve Harvey explained: In the same way a new employee has to wait for a ninety-day probation period before getting company benefits, you should also have a ninety-day probation period before giving up your benefits to a man. The benefits being your "cookies" or the "good good." That way if things do not work out you will have no regrets. Makes sense, right? But really, how realistic is this rule? And does it really matter whether or not you wait ninety-days before sleeping with a man? My answer to that last question is a big fat NO!

OK, while I understand the importance of getting to know someone before sleeping with him, I also feel it is equally important to know whether or not we are sexually compatible. In my opinion, ninety-days is a long time to spend getting to know someone just to find out at the end that one, he has none of the skills he bragged about (you know how some men like to brag). Two, he does not know the first thing about foreplay and three, he is one of those who arrive at the destination before you even get in the car. So, I believe, the sooner I know these things the better it is for me to make a decision on whether or not I want to take the relationship any further. Besides, men do it why not me (us).

But let’s be serious, the truth is there are different reasons why women and men sleep together be it before or after ninety-days. I don't think it makes a difference when we do it, because if the relationship is meant to work out, it will and if it is not meant to work out, it won’t. The main thing is, learn from your prior experiences, pay attention to the red lights (also known as your intuition) that goes off in your head as a warning when someone is wrong for you and you will have no regrets if you let him go early. And that's my motto.

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